Nicely put and well written. But just to play devil’s advocate, where do you draw the line? Sometimes we tough it out because of social obligations, or because it's simply polite. And where does discipline come in. Sure, we need to listen to ourselves and do what's best for us. But if we were to give up every time we didn't feel like doing something?
That's such an important question, and one I ask myself too.
Where is the line between listening to ourselves and simply giving up? Between honoring our boundaries and avoiding discomfort?
I don’t think I have a clear answer yet.
What I do know is that for many of us, especially those who grew up feeling like we had to please others or override our own instincts — “pushing through” became the default.
We don’t really know how to tell the difference between endurance and self-abandonment.
That’s exactly why I’m trying to slow down and notice: What does it cost me to stay? And what does it teach me to leave?
I agree — not every “I don’t feel like it” is a signal to stop. But for some of us, learning how to walk away is the deeper discipline.
Nicely put and well written. But just to play devil’s advocate, where do you draw the line? Sometimes we tough it out because of social obligations, or because it's simply polite. And where does discipline come in. Sure, we need to listen to ourselves and do what's best for us. But if we were to give up every time we didn't feel like doing something?
Thank you so much for reading 🙏🏽
That's such an important question, and one I ask myself too.
Where is the line between listening to ourselves and simply giving up? Between honoring our boundaries and avoiding discomfort?
I don’t think I have a clear answer yet.
What I do know is that for many of us, especially those who grew up feeling like we had to please others or override our own instincts — “pushing through” became the default.
We don’t really know how to tell the difference between endurance and self-abandonment.
That’s exactly why I’m trying to slow down and notice: What does it cost me to stay? And what does it teach me to leave?
I agree — not every “I don’t feel like it” is a signal to stop. But for some of us, learning how to walk away is the deeper discipline.
Still figuring it out — one tour at a time.
Just like the rest of us!😂
It’s wild how “it’s almost over” can seem like self-compassion but is actually self-abandonment in disguise. Thank you for putting words to that.
Exactly 😔
Thank you so much for reading and commenting Allen, I really appreciate it 🙏🏽